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October 12, 2017

Baby Number 2- Thoughts & Feelings

Hi Friends! It’s been awhile since I’ve been active on our blog; I’m sorry I’ve been MIA! As most of you may know by now, we have been blessed with Baby Number 2 on the way! We are so grateful to be given this beautiful gift again, as we know how great of a blessing this is. Thank you all for your kind words and congratulations; this baby is so loved already!


Finding Out

Adam and I had slowly decided over the summer that we wanted to add to our family. Even though we were certain we wanted to grow our family, we were unsure of the “when.” We finally decided to start trying for a second baby at the end of the summer/early Fall, but then changed our minds to the end of the year. After prayer and much indecisiveness, I had noticed that I was a couple days late (which is not the norm for me). I have taken so many pregnancy tests in my adult life that I really just wanted to see how things played out. The night before getting a pregnancy test, I poured myself a glass of wine before bed. As I took a few sips, something just didn’t feel right about finishing it so I poured it out. (I know, wasted wine!)

Adam went to work the next morning and I told him I would take a test within the next day or so. What I didn’t tell him was that I went out first thing that morning and bought one, along with some donuts for Riley and I. No shame. When I got home I did my thing and watched the test turn into an immediate, bold positive. I wasn’t surprised because I knew in my heart I had been pregnant, but was so thrilled! Riley and I went out and bought a big sister book and taped the positive test inside to surprise Adam with when he got home. My plan was to have Riley bring him the book, but she was crabby and cried instead. Toddlers, man. He read the title and it didn’t quite sink in until he saw the pregnancy test. He was so happy! I didn’t know that growing our family would be such an emotional occasion, but we are truly so excited! (and terrified)

The Symptoms

Boy people are right when they say every pregnancy is different, because this one is giving me a run for my money. I have been exhausted and nauseated since week 5, and am still battling morning sickness now. Being pregnant with a toddler is no joke; I have to not only keep a tiny human alive, but keep up a decent amount of energy in order to do so. I was feeling so defeated from morning sickness that at around 8 weeks, I started taking Diclegis. (More about that here) It’s a Class A morning sickness medication that DRAMATICALLY helped with my nausea and vomiting. (Not sponsored- just a personal lifesaver!) I’ve basically been living off of samples that my midwife gave me because I’d have to pay $350 for a month supply. I’ll keep throwing up, thank youWith all of that being said, I am so grateful to be feeling these symptoms, as I know it’s a sign of our sweet baby thriving inside me. With every wave of nausea, I’m comforted in knowing that I’m still pregnant!

The Emotions

With this pregnancy I feel 1 million percent more low-key and relaxed than I did with my first. Although I feel like crap, I’m trying to just go with the flow and not read into every twinge of pain. I’m growing a human; it’s not always going to be comfortable.

I’m also having a hard time wrapping my mind around having another little one in our house. I know that my love will grow and my heart will explode with love for both of my children, it’s just difficult not to feel sad for my first babe. How will she react? Will she be jealous? I know Riley will only just be 2 when baby comes, but I ache at the thought of her not feeling all of my love. I am happy that she will be so young when getting a sibling, as that will just become the norm for her. So for now, I’ll just keep researching double strollers and trying not to freak out.

Seasoned Mama’s, what advice do you have to help adjust your child to a new baby? How do you stay energized & motivated during pregnancy? 

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  • Janell

    Yay! I’m beyond thrilled for you and your growing family! So sweet of you to share your journe! My only seasoned advice is to not listen to advice! I hope you’re starting to feel better!

    October 16, 2017 at 10:47 pm Reply
    • Tori

      Best advice I’ve gotten so far; thanks Janell!

      October 18, 2017 at 7:36 pm Reply
  • Elyse Coffing

    I know what you mean when you heart aches for your first baby. I have cried to Sean many time about I only have 2 weeks left with just Eva. How is that fair to her? Will she be jealous? Will she think mommy loves new baby more? But then I think about how love is surrounding us all right now and I have hope that everything will be amazing!!

    October 14, 2017 at 3:37 am Reply
    • Tori

      Awe, I’m so glad I’m not the only mama that struggles with these feelings. Eva is going to be so in love with Maggie!

      October 14, 2017 at 9:57 pm Reply
      • Janell

        I had such a strong love for my first son, felt so guilty when I was pregnant with my second. He was jealous of the baby in my belly, he’d shoot pretend guns at my belly and said he hated my baby?. The day he actually got to hold Finn, he grew up, protected and loved his baby… As for me, I feel like after having my second son my crazy love became healthy, more balanced. I have 3 boys now, and I could have a ton more, the best thing in the world is to see your baby become a big brother or sister!!! Best thing ever!!! Even better than the moment you became parents to your first!!! You won’t believe me, though, until you experience it yourself!

        October 16, 2017 at 11:02 pm Reply
        • Tori

          Omg that had me cracking up a little bit. They all seem super close now! I know what you mean about that crazy love for your firstborn; I can’t wait to see that sibling bond and have that balance!

          October 18, 2017 at 7:38 pm Reply
  • Rhonda Klave

    Hi Pickle, Your Daddy and Uncle Cory were two years and 2 weeks apart. I had the same concerns about how Ron would like being a big brother. He stretched up to look in the bassinet and said, “hi baby.” He was a great help to ‘bring mommy a diaper (cloth ones by the way) please.’ You, Adam and Riley will find a routine that works for you. There are also a couple people close by that will always have your back, Tori, no mater how grown-up you get. Love GG

    October 12, 2017 at 10:57 pm Reply
    • Tori

      I’m hoping Riley is a little helper; I’m sure she’ll be the best big sis! Love you, Gramma!

      October 14, 2017 at 9:58 pm Reply
  • Matt Stake


    October 12, 2017 at 10:55 pm Reply
    • Tori

      Thanks so much!

      October 14, 2017 at 9:55 pm Reply
  • Grandma Stake (Granny)

    LOVE Reading, Raising our Stakes.

    October 12, 2017 at 8:35 pm Reply
    • Tori

      Thank you! ❤

      October 14, 2017 at 9:59 pm Reply
  • Ron

    Great post. Glad to see you writing again. Love reading your thoughts and insights.

    October 12, 2017 at 8:16 pm Reply
    • Tori

      Thanks for being my biggest fan!

      October 14, 2017 at 10:01 pm Reply

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