A quick letter of encouragement for the Real Mom. You are not alone. (no really, your toddler will follow you into the bathroom)
There is so much you don’t know about being a mother, about newborns and the way they eat and sleep, about discipline and sleep training, the do’s & dont’s of, well, everything, and about taking care of yourself. But I want to tell you something: it’s 100% OKAY.
There will be days that you’ll want to lock yourself in the bathroom and cry because you have no idea what you’re doing and sob because your toddler won’t nap. You’ll want to scream because each piece of food you give them gets thrown onto the floor (yes, even the milk). You’ll feel anxious and depressed while you see the seasoned mom take dreamy vacations with their 3 kids while everyone else seems to be carrying on with their perfect lives. Mama, you are not alone.
Sometimes you’ll have really hard
weeks days where you’ll feel you’re just surviving, waiting for help to arrive so you can take a shower or do something to make you feel like a human again.
But, more often than not, you’ll have those days that are utterly and completely fulfilling. The days you imagined you would have while growing that sweet baby inside of you. Your child/children will play well, eat well, sleep well, and love on you until you think your heart might burst. Those, those are the days that fill us to the brim and keep us going. The best fragment of wisdom I can impart on you is to not let the mom guilt win. Stop comparing & competing with other mamas. We are ALL trying our best to raise our babes. Find your tribe of moms and love them, support them, and remind them daily that they are making a difference.
After all, we are our children’s source of life, comfort, support, and direction. These tiny lives are ours for the molding; and THAT Mama, is the greatest responsibility of all.