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August 9, 2017

From Desk Job to Diaper Duty: Adjusting To Life As a Stay-At-Home-Mom

After having children, many parents are faced with the decision to rejoin the workforce or to stay at home. I will be discussing my personal experience in transitioning from my career, to a full time stay-at-home-mom.

A not-so brief-background on my work experience- {grab some coffee and a snack!}

5 years. That’s how long I worked in the coffee industry. From Barista, to Customer Service Barista in sales, coffee has watched me grow into adulthood. I snagged my first Barista job at the ripe age of 18 at a drive-thru coffee stand. After working there for a couple of years, I wanted to experience other cafes, so I bounced around over the years to 3 other coffee shops until I tired of the position. After getting married during this time and finishing school, I went through the classic millennial crisis: what am I doing with my life? I was stressed and exhausted all the time, my anxiety was at an all time high, my sleep schedule was non-existent; I wanted something more gratifying (and stable) to put my time into.

 

Change Is Welcome

After hitting my ceiling of stress, my husband graciously let me take a couple of months off from working so I could re-evaluate my life. We traveled a little bit and connected with each other; I slept and regained some peace back into my life. I despised not contributing to our family, so during this time I had been constantly searching for a career I could throw myself into. It wasn’t until a midnight online job search that I stumbled upon an add for an experienced individual in the coffee industry to work at a wholesale coffee supply distribution company. Even though it was ridiculously late, I sent over my resume, knowing that this path was meant for me. I received a call first thing that morning for an interview and was overjoyed at the thought of a new beginning. The job was offered to me, and so my career began.

 

Hello, Motherhood

Fast forward 1 year and here we are with a brand new baby girl and a whole lot of world-rocking responsibilities. My work place had been so understanding and flexible with our new addition. I loved my job. I couldn’t wait to return, even with my newfound joy as a mother. 3 months later I was back into the swing of things, feeling stronger (and more vulnerable) at the same time as a woman and Mom. We had an incredible, loving nanny and everything seemed to be effortlessly falling into place. Thank you, God!

 

It wasn’t until our nanny moved away for a job offer that yet again changed our life. Although we were excited for her and would miss her role in our lives, it had been on my heart for awhile how much it pained me to be away from Riley. I struggled internally to have someone else “mother” her while I was away. I felt I couldn’t get enough time with her and was missing out on her precious, early months. We had a very short time to make a decision, so Adam and I decided that I would leave my job and stay home with her full time. At the end of the day, this choice was an “easy” one to make, yet I was troubled with resigning from a job that I loved, a job that finally gave me a place in the working world, that made me feel valued. Working in the coffee industry was the only professional niche I’ve known and had seen me transition from teenager, to woman, to wife, to mother. It had witnessed marriage, miscarriage, and new life. It’s difficult to let go of our security blanket and step out into the unknown.

 

Takeaway

It’s only been been a short time since I’ve left the workplace, but I can honestly say that it was one of the best decisions we’ve ever made. Being a mother is the most challenging thing I’ve faced to date, but I can truly say that it is the most rewarding, soul-satisfying responsibility I could have ever asked for. What a blessing to invest in your child daily, to know that they are safe and loved, to watch them play and grow, to hold them in your arms whenever you want. I am a blessed woman! Now Adam and I have more time together as a family. I am also able to manage our household better than I ever have been. I feel we can all breathe easier with a clean home, groceries in the fridge, and more wholesome meals, all while parenting Riley and raising her to the best of our human abilities.

 

 

Tips

  • Plan Out Your Day– Having a game plan/routine for the day is essential for staying productive and happy while staying home full time. Bust out your planner and plan out days with baby along with chores and meals.
  • Give yourself something to look forward to– Staying at home all day with baby can be physically and mentally exhausting. Plan ahead with your spouse to alot you some alone time. You may feel guilty, but staying refreshed makes you a better mother and wife.
  • Get out of the house– No, it’s not always easy to get out of the house with a baby or toddler, or multiple kids at that! However, I find it makes me feel like a normal person and gives us the opportunity to explore together. Even getting outside for some Vitamin D will do wonders to you attitude.
  • Have an outlet/hobby– Being a mother is a very all-consuming responsibility which can seem like all you’re able to do. It’s so important to stay connected to the things you enjoy doing. Moms need a way to decompress more than anyone!
  • Exercise– When we work, we always complain about how little time we have to take care of ourselves. Now we don’t really have an excuse. Plan time for a quick exercise while baby is playing or sleeping. If you don’t have an established routine, YouTube is a great place for fun, quick exercises.
  • Get ready for the day– This is huge for me. I am 100x more likely to have a good, productive day if I get up and get ready before baby wakes up. It’s not always easy, but try to present yourself in a way that makes you feel good!

 

Share Your Struggles

If you are on the fence about making the decision to rejoin the work force or to stay at home, we would love to talk to you about it! Every family has different needs, but we would love to offer encouragement. At the end of the day, we must be our best selves for our families.

What hurdles have you experienced in this area? What words of wisdom would you share with a family in this position?

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